I think a key element in writing a short story or novel is portraying a certain style which describes you. Whether it's Tolkien's perfect detail or Rowlings uncanny humor...these authors have found their niche and it's important for us, as aspiring writers, to find our niche.
It's taken me years, and some more, to find my niche in genres, as well as my own style. Best piece of advice I've come to accept, failure is your life lesson. You learn more from it then success.
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go. — Jamie Anderson